Hey guys! May the luck of this St. Patrick’s Day week bring upon many cancelled meetings and zero “following up on this” emails! 

Song of the day: I know we’re WAY late to the game, but we’ve had Lily Allen’s “divorce album” West End Girl on repeat where she spills alllll the tea.

Have a Q for WorkDaze or the podcast? Let’s hear it. Oh, and while you’re at it, listen to Are You Mad At Me? here.

3 Signs That You’re a People Pleaser

Do you find yourself saying “yes, no problem” when you really want to say “no thanks”? Or catch yourself overthinking every little thing just to keep the peace? Coming from the two people who named a podcast Are You Made At Me?...same. 

So below, we’re chatting about a few small ways to shift those people-pleasing tendencies so you can start taking care of yourself while still being considerate of others

• Even though you’re absolutely worried, you’re always the “no worries!” friend. If someone cancels at the last minute, changes plans, or drops something on your plate and you instantly say “all good!” while quietly crashing out rearranging your own schedule to accommodate others, this is for you.

  Fix: Practice saying “Let me check and get back to you” or “I might not be able to make that work tonight.” Setting boundaries and giving yourself a minute to think helps you respond honestly instead of defaulting to your people-pleasing ways.

• You crowdsource every decision. Instead of just taking the reins and suggesting that new spot you’ve been dying to try, you ask every single person what they want first because you can’t bear the thought of anyone being ~mad at you~ (spoiler alert: they won’t be)!

  Fix: Try suggesting instead of surveying. Confidently throw out a plan like: “Let’s try that new taco place at 7.” Most people are relieved someone else made the decision, and if it doesn’t work for someone, it’s up to them to speak up.

• You soften every opinion. You start conversations with personal disclaimers like “This might be a dumb idea…” or “I could totally be wrong, but…” just to make sure no one feels challenged or thinks less of you.

  Fix: Try stating your opinions confidently, without the self-deprecating lead-ins. “I think we could try this…” or “My idea is…” are honest and respectful phrases without having to apologize for your genius idea.

Remember, setting small boundaries and speaking up helps you show up more fully for yourself and others. Start with one simple change at a time, and watch how much lighter and more confident your interactions can feel without bending over backwards.

…while you refrain from asking your friend for the 10th time if they’re mad at you.

MersGoodEats’ Homemade Brown Sugar Cinnamon Pop-Tarts just transported us back to mornings in our high school cafeteria. 

We’re LOL at Abby Walker summing up the guilt of taking a sick day. 

Avocado toast?! IN THIS ECONOMY?! Good thing CreativeExplained shows us how to grow our own avocado trees with this simple hack.

Thanks so much for reading WorkDaze this week! We wouldn’t be here without all of you, and we love ya for it. TTYL!

—Rod and Gabi