Hi friends! Today’s word of the day? Cantankerous: a word used to describe a person who is often angry and annoyed. “Monday mornings bring out the cantankerous side of me when I see an email at 9 am.”

Song of the day: She’s hereeeee! We’ve been waiting for Fletcher’s new album “Would You Still Love Me If You Really Knew Me?” to drop for months, and it’s safe to say that we’re OBSESSED. 

Need to vent? Want advice? Have feedback? We wanna hear from you!

How To Stay Motivated When You’re Over It

 question 
My boss moved me out of the department because he decided I wasn’t the right “personality fit” for the role. Now I have a new manager in a new department, and I have lost every ounce of internal motivation. I'm going to start job searching, but do you have any tips to get at least a little mojo back right now? —M.

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First, we’re sorry to hear that your boss did you dirty like that. Being moved to a different department against your will AND for something that doesn’t sound performance-based is incredibly frustrating. We know the job search is tough out there right now, so let’s chat about some things you can do if you’re stuck in this rut for a bit.

1. Learn as much as you can: One thing we both agree on (it’s rare, we know)? There’s always something to learn. Even if you’re not geeked about this role, use the time you have left to learn some new skills. That experience may come in handy when you’re applying for your next role. 

But with that being said…

2. Take it little by little: Learning a new role is exhausting, especially when you’re forced to do it. Listen, Rome wasn’t built in a day, so don’t feel the need to learn everything immediately. Trying to do everything at once is just going to bury your motivation further.

And during all of this learning…

3. Decide what you want in your next role. Low key, we want to fight your old manager, but we’ll save that for another day. You deserve to have a job that accepts you for who you are, not one you’re forced into because your personality wasn’t cut out for the last one. Think about what makes you the most happy and excited, and we bet your personality will fit right in with it. 

When To Say Something Vs. When To Let It Go

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I’m part of a close-knit friend group. Recently, my friend and I had a little tiff (we’re all good now!!), but while hashing it out, they mentioned they had discussed with another friend in the group to get some advice. I know I shouldn’t feel betrayed, but something about the whole situation feels icky. Should I bring it up, or just let it go? —K.

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First off, we’re so glad you and your friend were able to work it out. Being able to communicate emotions effectively is a huge and healthy part of all relationships. While you may feel betrayed, let’s chat about a few things to think about before bringing on more drama.

Did you discuss keeping the tiff to yourselves? If not, it’s not fair to confront your friend about it. Not to take their side here, but if you needed the issue to be private, you really should have communicated that to them at first. 

Your friend needs support, too. We’re going to go ahead and assume that your friend confided in your mutual buddy because they needed some support, and not because they were talking sh*t. We all need an outlet, and since you guys resolved the issue before you found out the other friend knew about it, we say let this one go and move forward in both friendships. 

But listen, if bringing it up to your friend is going to help you sleep better at night, by all means, share your feelings. But if you’re able to brush it off, we highly recommend doing just that this time around.

Got a Q? We wanna hear it here! 

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We don’t know about you, but we’re having Love Island withdrawals… specifically Amaya Papaya’s wise words!

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Thanks so much for reading! You guys are the best, and we never forget it! See you back here soon. 

—Rod and Gabi