Hey you guys! We’re back with the Word of The Day… ebullient. Meaning: lively and enthusiastic. Example: She was not ebullient when her boss asked her if she could take on another project.

Song of the day: We’ve needed some extra cheer around here lately so it’s never too early to play holiday music, right?

Need some advice? We have an A for you here!

Is It Okay to Cry at Work?

 question 
Is crying in the office unprofessional? Sometimes I get so frustrated with my work that I can’t contain my emotions and let out a few silent sobs in front of my boss. I’m friends with them so I don’t feel uncomfortable or judged, but I’m curious if I were to get a new job and not be in the same situation if management would think poorly of me? —E.

 answer 
Crying is a normal and healthy part of regulating our emotions. We hate that it’s associated with weakness because tbh it’s pretty brave to be vulnerable enough to express your feelings. But while we’re all for a good stream of tears every now and then, you may need to get to the root of the problem if it keeps happening.

Ask yourself the questions below to do just that: 

• Why am I so frustrated? 

• What do I need to not feel like this? 

Once you identify the answers to these two Qs, it’s time to ask for some help.

Communicate these frustrations with your manager, and let them know what you need to help minimize them. As your boss, it’s their job to help come up with a plan to help ensure a healthy workload and overall positive experience.

How To Get Back Into The Dating Game

 question 
I’ve been out of the dating game for about three years because of life things including moving, job changes, and working on myself. I’m now ready to put energy and effort into going on dates again, but how the heck do you flirt or even start trying to talk to someone? It's so scary! —E.

 answer 
Gabi here! Dating can be super intimidating, but it also can be pretty fun! For most of my adult dating life, I dreaded going on dates and would work myself up to the point where I’d be pacing back and forth in my apartment until I had to leave (AKA the first date shuffle). This mindset created the exact type of energy I didn’t want, and I've worked hard to shift my perspective. A few things I did to help with that?

1. Stop worrying if they like you and ask yourself do you even like them? I’d always get so caught up in the fact that my date didn’t like me and never stopped to think maybe I didn’t even like them (lol). Dating is a two-way street; don’t forget they’re in the same boat as you and are trying to make a good impression too! 

2. Go into it without expectations. Try to take some pressure off by thinking of a date more as just meeting someone new and less about the romance of it all. If it goes well, great! And if not, you met someone new that may just be a good connection to have!

3. Be yourself. Above all else, and as cliché as it sounds, just be yourself! We all deserve someone who likes us for who we are, and pretending to be someone you’re not won’t help you find them!

Got a Q? We wanna hear it here! 

…while you decorate for the holidays on an off-camera work call.

We’re living for babytamago’s Everything But The Turkey series on TikTok right now, including these French Onion Brie Bites for your Thanksgiving Day feast!

All those in favor of making ads again like the iconic Chili’s Baby Back Ribs commerical, say I. “I!!” This jingle will forever slap. 

We highly recommend going to see Wicked… Rod’s already seen it twice.

Thanks so much for reading! We hope something amazing happens to you this week. We’re off for Turkey Day next week, so we’ll catch ya the next! Love ya, mean it. 

—Rod and Gabi