Our "ick" list

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Hi friends. Happy Valentine’s Day! Whether you’re celebrating with someone tonight, or housing Dove dark chocolate hearts while lying alone on your couch, you have a special place in my heart. ❤️

SOTD (Song of the day): Sticking to the V-Day theme, we’re throwing it back to one of our favorite movies, The Princess Diaries, and Mandy Moore’s rendition of “Stupid Cupid.”


The Official WorkDaze Ick List

After hearing dating story after dating story from her, I’m handing it over to the other half of WorkDaze, Gabi (pronounced like a Gobstopper FYI), to chat about “ick” culture.

Gabi: Did you know that Alexis only says the iconic phrase “Ew, David!” three times throughout all of Schitt’s Creek?! I wish I could say the same when it comes to the icks I’ve encountered as a 33-year-old single woman in the dating world. 🥴

What’s “the ick”? First coined on Ally McBeal, “the ick” is a "sudden cringe feeling when you have romantic contact with someone: and become almost immediately put off by them.” It may be the smallest thing, like someone chasing after a ping pong ball, or something bigger, like someone always thinking they’re right, even after they’ve been proven wrong. 

I think writing someone off just because they wear socks to bed (it’s me, hi! 🙋‍♀️), isn’t the best strategy. So, I present to you three Qs to figure out your ick scale and threshold

  • How much do you like the person?

  • What’s the ick?

  • How many icks are there?

With this data (lol) we can either 1) choose to ignore the fact that the person who treats us like royalty still wears t-shirts from high school or 2) break it off with the loser who interrupts every time someone else starts talking.

Storytime: I recently went on a date with a guy who we’ll call “Clapper Boy.” Look, I’m all for a good applause once in a while, but this man clapped at 85% of the things I said…to the point where I couldn’t finish my sentences. And since I obviously can’t keep my mouth shut, the question “You’re a big clapper, huh?” came out of my mouth after about the 8th clap.

Was this an ick to me? Kind of. Was it so high on my ick scale that I wouldn’t have seen him again? No. Did he reach out to hang out again? Also, no…but that’s beside the point, OKAY?!

Whether it’s a relationship, work, or life in general, you’re bound to find a few icks. Here are just a few of our icks below: 

Romantic relationship icks: 

• Rude to waitstaff 
• Cries when their “team” loses (but didn’t cry watching The Notebook??)
• Makes plans and doesn’t follow through
• Loud food chewer/slurper

Work icks:

• Condescending boss 
• No work/life balance
• Lack of recognition
• More work, no reward

Life icks:

• One-uppers 
• People who don’t say please and thank you
• Name-droppers
• People that don’t tip well

But remember one person’s ick may very well be another person’s turn-on. It’s all about what’s going to tip your ick scale.

We told you ours and now we want to hear yours! Reply to this email and let us know some of your icks.

Got a Q for me to A? Submit yours here.

Things To Send to the Group Chat…

…while you rewatch every clip of Traylor at the Super Bowl.

“Can you maybe not, Trav?”

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At the Usher Bowl, Beyoncé dropped two new songs and announced her new country-leaning album, “Renaissance II,” which will drop on March 29th. Catch me line dancing alone in my kitchen to “TEXAS HOLD ‘EM” until then.

Vanilla ice cream topped with olive oil and sea salt? Sounds weird. Tastes amazing. Let me know if you’ve tried this!

That’s all for today, friends! Have the best rest of the week. See you back here on Wednesday! 


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