Hi guys! We stayed offline this weekend, anything major happen? 😉🥥

A special shoutout to all who came and boogied at Rod’s Return of Top 8 this past Saturday; we had a blast… and also realized these can’t be the same legs that once (attempted) to pop, lock, and drop it. 🫤

This week’s song: The perfect song to accompany today’s first Q, we’re bringing it back to ‘97 with Usher’s “My Way.”

Have a Q for us? Get in touch here! 

How To (Nicely) Tell Your Mom That It’s Not Her Wedding

 question 
I’m getting married soon, and my partner and I have decided to do a private ceremony with just us and a photographer, followed by a casual family celebration the following weekend. We’re super excited, but my mom will not let go of the fact that she won't be at the ceremony and brings it up every time we talk. Any advice on what to do before this sucks all the joy out of our wedding?—J.

 answer 
Well, this explains why we never got an invite! First, congrats on this exciting new chapter in your life; we’re so happy for you! Planning a wedding is stressful enough, so we’re sorry that you have to deal with this too. It sounds like your mom’s being quite the Monica to your Phoebe, and hey, this may not be how she would have done things, but... it’s not her day!

Here are a few things to consider while handling the situation:

• In the end, all your mom really wants is for you to be happy, even if her actions right now are making your life harder. Make sure she knows this plan is what truly makes you happy.

• You want to be able to have a conversation without your mom bringing up your wedding plans. Let her know that you won’t talk about the wedding with her anymore if she keeps insisting on trying to change your plans. Oh, how the tables have turned with the tough love! (Flashback to having to do your math homework before being able to watch Nick at Nite.)

• If your mom feels left out, give her a responsibility or job to do for the family celebration. This will be a good distraction to keep her busy while you focus on getting hitched in private!

Remember, you and your partner are starting this new journey together. Don’t ever feel guilty for doing things the way you want them.

P.S. This applies to dealing with anyone with unwarranted opinions about your special day. If they don’t like it, too bad. But feel free to still send a gift! 😉 

What to Do When You Have a Bad Boss (But You Like Them)

 question 
My manager is genuinely bad at her job. I like her personally, but she is so bad at being a manager, and my co-worker and I are getting pretty tired of it. We don't want to hurt her feelings or get her fired but we also can't continue like this. Any advice on how to move forward?—E.

 answer 
It always makes things worse when you genuinely like the person! But you’re absolutely right, you can’t keep working in these conditions. Below are a few things you can try before you become a lil snitch.

• Get together with your coworker and make a list of all of the things that aren’t working with your boss, along with ways that they can make things better. Just keep it out of the Slack channel! 

• As awkward as it may be, go to your boss and explain that the way things are going right now isn’t productive. Ask them if they’re able to deliver in the ways you’ve mapped out and how they plan on doing so. Not everyone was born to be a good manager, and even bosses can learn a thing or two. 

And if, after this chat, things still don’t change? Unfortunately, it’s time to go to your boss’s boss and maybe loop in HR (yikes). Their poor management skills aren’t your issue, and it isn't fair for you to suffer to get your job done.

We love to hear from you. Have a burning question you want us to answer? Let’s hear it!

…while we jam out to Ashlee Simpson’s Autobiography Deluxe edition.

SNL who? Ashlee Simpson’s Autobiography turned 20 years old (omg!), and she released a deluxe edition to celebrate! Reply and let us know what your favorite throwback is on the original album! 

We were today years old when we found out you can buy bags of ice at McDonald’s. And yes, we’d also like fries with that. 🍟

We’re always on the hunt for our next favorite sweet treat, and Ambitious Kitchen’s High Protein Yogurt Clusters are just that.

Thanks so much for reading, friends! It's time to get a little mid-week treat, and you should, too! See you back here next Wednesday. :) 

—Rod and Gabi